Sometimes there is only You to turn to

 

Sometimes, you find yourself in situations needing more support from your surroundings. Or you expect your family or friends to give you a call, but your phone remains quiet. Not a single person in the whole wide world seems eager to talk to you; no one wonders how you are doing.

It’s easy to be disappointed with someone else’s behavior. But stop right there—who ever promised you anything? If you choose to dig yourself into the bottomless pit of disappointment, I promise you will find even worse enemies lurking at the bottom. Be aware that cynicism and bitterness are just two of the traps dwelling in the darkness, and
you have no use for them. If you add comparison, envy, and suspicion to your list, life starts sounding pretty heavy.

It might be that one or several of your close friends or family members, or even coworkers, have turned their back on you when you needed them. But remember, most of the time, people are not doing anything against you—they are doing the best they can, and sometimes that just doesn’t seem to be enough.

For most people, life is so full of their own musts and have-to-dos that you seldom cross their minds. If something special happened in your life, it becomes even harder to make the call, as it’s easier to delay than to face an awkward situation without knowing what to say.

Your cries for attention or help haven’t been loud or clear enough. Maybe
you are a true survivor, a person who manages even the most difficult situations yourself. Imagine if the outside world interprets your withdrawal as not wanting to be disturbed or helped. So the solution is your responsibility. You can choose to make yourself heard and understood, to reconnect, or you can choose to dwell on thoughts of isolation and inadequacy.

Here awakens one of life’s big challenges: to cultivate self-knowledge and self-confidence. You need to take a journey inward to know that you are strong and resourceful enough to handle whatever life throws your way—even if it is just a phone call that no one else makes. Set a stop to the pity party and do it because it adds value to your life.

I’m not ignoring or downplaying the impact of loneliness—it can be rough. But at the same time, it can be the most uplifting period of your life. Cultivate a compassionate mindset, meet people from a place of acceptance, and appreciate the things they do for you instead of focusing on lack and negativity.

Live with compassion and let your light shine!